This is a common refrain: I have not been able to clear the civil services exam even after two attempts. I have lost interest in preparation and am depressed and confused about where my life is heading. How do I cope with this? What is your story?
How does clearing or not clearing the UPSC exam make you a winner or a loser? This is just one exam for a particular type of job! So what if you didn't clear it? Is everyone who is anyone doing UPSC-based jobs? What about Sachin Tendulkar, Aishwarya Rai, Bill Gates, Narendra Modi, Mary Kom? Have they all cleared the UPSC? This is such a wrong attitude! Maybe you are meant to do something else with your life! How can everyone be destined for the same job?
Be brutally honest with yourself. Don't keep blaming external circumstances. Remember that you can only change yourself...
If you are really keen, then instead of getting depressed and blaming life, try to analyze what exactly it is that you are doing wrong. And be brutally honest with yourself. Don't keep blaming external circumstances. Remember that you can only change yourself and not other things. So work on yourself and be honest. If you lie to yourself, you are only harming YOU. Telling your parents or others that you prepared so well but the system was rigged, doesn't really do anything in the long run. Find your mistakes, see what it is that others have done that you missed on, and do it!
This is just an exam for a job...you may actually be much better suited for something else entirely. That doesn't make you a loser!
In case you are not that keen, then great! Go do something else! You may be much more successful at that than you'd ever be in the civil services. Our country needs lots of doctors, teachers, entrepreneurs, engineers, scientists... not that many civil servants! This is not the only way to achieve something in life. This is just an exam for a job...you may actually be much better suited for something else entirely. That doesn't make you a loser! How could it? Just because your path is something else, doesn't place you higher or lower than others. That kind of thinking is just so, so wrong. In my opinion, the point of life is to be the best you can and contribute to the world around you. There is no one way of doing it! You can be just as happy at something else and actually make a bigger difference and be more contented. So stop associating this exam with more than it is! It is not the only way of life and not the only way to success! In fact, the exam is just about getting a particular type of job! Success will be defined by how you do it and not by getting or not getting this job!
Just because your path is something else, doesn't place you higher or lower than others. That kind of thinking is just so, so wrong.
So don't get depressed. Think smart! Life is about far more than just this exam. Success is far deeper a concept that can ever be encompassed by just one exam. If not this, then do something else. Success is all about being happy and making a difference. You can do it by many other ways!
I do hope you clear this exam if that is truly the only way you think you can make a difference but if you can think of anything else, then I wish you all the success in that!
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