If youāre less than happy about being perennially single this Valentineās Day, just think, it could be a whole lot worse ā you could have just been dumped, spent the whole day having a raging argument, or walked in the freezing cold to your other halfās house wearing nothing but a coat and lacy underwear, only to find heās playing computer games with a bunch of mates.
Sometimes a day thatās all about love and lust simply piles on the pressure, and while the payoff from a lovely date can be roses, romance and amazing sex, when things go wrong those moments get ingrained in the brain. Forever.
Here are some people who know exactly how quickly a Valentineās date can turn sour...
Dumped The Day Before.
One man, who wishes to remain anonymous (for obvious reasons), tells HuffPost UK he was walking down the street holding a bunch of incredibly expensive roses to give his girlfriend on their early Valentineās date, when she phoned him and dumped him. There and then. It was 13 February.
āI think my response was āwell, this is incredibly awkwardā,ā he says. The pair had been together for roughly six months. But, in hindsight, the fact she was already arranged to go for dinner on the 14 with one of her best friends might have been a bit of a giveaway that a break-up was on the horizon. Ouch.
The Argumentative Date.
Allie says she spent a large portion of her Valentineās date crying in the toilet of a Moroccan restaurant, because sheād been arguing with her boyfriend non-stop all day. They then awkwardly sat through a three-course meal (yes, they were one of those pairings) in a small room filled with loved-up couples .
āTheyād decided to cram all the couples into one room, rather than spread us out across the two rooms, and it was incredibly cramped and awkward,ā she says. āEspecially given both of us were in such a bad mood. We ended up just gobbling the food down in silence and then had an [another] argument when we got home.ā Surprisingly, the pair split up not long after.
Cheaterās Gonna Cheat.
āMy boyfriend cheated on me just over a month before Valentineās Day but we decided to give it another go,ā says one unhappy Valentine, who weāll call Angela (not her real name).
The pair agreed theyād make an effort for Valentineās Day, despite the fact theyād be spending 14 February apart. So Angela made a box full of his favourite things, including chocolate, coffee, a framed photo and a watch heād really wanted. āIt cost a lot to send this Valentineās box down to him but I wanted to make the effort, like he said we should,ā she recalls.
And in return? Three days before Valentineās, Angela arrived home to find a box had been left outside her flat containing flowers that were half dead. āThat was all he did. He couldnāt even get them delivered on the actual day,ā she says. āI was so embarrassed, I didnāt tell him I received them. And on Valentineās Day when he received my box and obviously felt guilty, he said: āYou couldāve told me you were going to go to that much effort, now mine looks shit.ā Dick.ā
Mad About The Ex.
Valentineās haunts Jessi to this day, after a card she received made her revisit some powerful emotions about her ex. āI was 17, living at home and working as a waitress,ā she recalls. So far, so Human League. āDuring my shift, my mum texted me with news that a card had arrived addressed to āJessicaā. Very few people in this world call me by that and my heart raced thinking my dreams had come true and my recent ex had changed his mind and declared his love for me on this romantic day.ā
After hours of letting her mind run wild, thinking up possible scenarios (all of which involved her ex), she clocked off from her shift and went home, where she hastily tore open the envelope. āIt read āFuck Valentineās Dayā in big letters,ā she continues. āI felt sick. Until I read the fine print ā āyouāre single and fabulousā. My best friend had thoughtfully sent me a card so I could feel the love but ultimately that resulted in three hours of crying and a major backtrack on the progress Iād made in getting over the ex.ā Everybody now: āDonāt you want me, baby?...ā
Undy-niable Embarrassment.
It couldāve been worse though... One reader who wished to remain anonymous ā also for good reason ā revealed that her Valentineās Day once went sour after a friend convinced her to turn up at her boyfriendās house wearing sexy lingerie, a coat and nothing else.
āThe only way to get to his place was a 30-minute walk,ā she explains. āTen minutes in, my stockings are falling down, my lacy bra is chafing and Iām totally frozen. Unable to stand the strange looks from passers-by as I hoicked up my stocking yet again, I eventually rang my friend to come and give me a lift.ā
But when she got to her boyfriendās place, the mood had gone ā and continued to plummet through the floorboards into the dark, cold earth. āWhen I got there, my boyfriend was too busy playing āFootball Managerā to pay me any attention so I ended up sitting on his bed in my coat for what felt like hours before he realised what was going on. I was not feeling romantic by that point.ā