When people, from strangers to neighbours, start to label young kids with terms like "hyperactive" or "slow" or as having "attention deficit disorder" it makes my blood boil. These traits may or may not apply, but why are people so quick to label kids, especially those who are not their own?
I watch the buzzards circling nearby, frantically flapping their large wings. Perhaps, they've spotted something to eat. It's a new day. Everything feels peaceful; much like the proverbial calm before the storm. But my heart flutters uncontrollably, for it knows what comes next.
06/06/2016 8:41 AM IST
Loyalitis is a condition that affects 1 in 4 adults, and is defined by certain characteristic traits. It starts with an inability to say NO, when the smiling customer service agent (usually an attractive person of the opposite gender) explains the benefits and perks of their 'unique' Loyalty or Reward program in a soft, dusky and slightly heavy voice, while their perfume dulls your senses and makes you take irrational decisions.
03/04/2016 8:50 AM IST
Have you heard that popular adage that goes, "Nice guys finish last?" It's untrue. Because nice guys never finish. Because they are forever stopping to help someone and there is always someone.
28/02/2016 8:25 AM IST
For some strange reason, parenting has become enmeshed in an "attachment-focused" culture. Which makes certain parents believe that if you're not actually physically present 24x7 for your kids, you are not a good parent. Or that if you do actually get some "me-time", you should feel guilty about taking advantage of it. I think such parents are competing for a perfect parent trophy - which, by the way, does not exist.
30/01/2016 8:14 AM IST
As I grew up, I put down my obsession with superheroes as one of the side effects of being a single child. Fast forward to the present. I am now a proud papa to an amazingly active and naughty toddler, and over the course of the past year, I've discovered that I've had some superhero-esque traits all along. I just had to become a parent to release them.
28/12/2015 8:16 AM IST
Sometimes, I lie awake late at night, wondering if my underarms are pristine. Or about how many women I'll be able to attract the next day. Confused? So am I. But that's what some of the deodorant adverts -- with their over-the-top humour and promises of aphrodisiacal effects on women -- seem to think occupies a large part of our brain activity.
17/11/2015 8:51 AM IST
Great, you're expecting! This has to be amazing news. Both of you are excited beyond words, and suddenly everywhere you turn, you can't help but notice expectant couples. You personally want to shout out the news from the top of a very high building, but you do somehow keep the news to only immediate family/friends. You dote on your partner and are available at her beck and call. Her tiniest ooh, her smallest aah has you in a flurry of concern.
25/10/2015 8:17 AM IST
Back in London, finding clothes that fit was surprisingly easy. In a country where even the average teenager has a much larger waist size than me, I was pleasantly surprised to find that I fell into the category of 'normal-sized' people. This made me rather optimistic when I had to go shopping here in India. I naively assumed that with so many big brands vying for market share, they would cater to the needs of people of all shapes and sizes.
04/10/2015 8:33 AM IST
It is drummed into our heads that the man must be the primary breadwinner of the family and the woman the primary caregiver. We seem to be unwilling to accept the fact that times are changing and that most fathers are happy to do whatever it is they need to do to ensure the proper functioning of the family. Ever since I joined the club, I've noticed that my species has to contend with certain stereotypes. Today, I'd just like to bust a few of those.
17/09/2015 8:06 AM IST
I was a happy person before I met my wife. But having her in my life gives it a whole new meaning - a new dimension of happiness that I cannot begin to describe. And with my little one added to the mix, I'm now happier than ever.
17/08/2015 8:26 AM IST
Recently I happened to speak to a friend who was all set to embrace motherhood in all its glory. But the more we discussed parenting and how life changes after kids, the more it became evident that there was something she wasn't telling me. So, I dug a little more and coaxed her to reveal the source of her worry.
04/08/2015 8:08 AM IST
It's perhaps best to say that queueing in India is not the same as queuing elsewhere. The reason - we don't take our queues seriously at all. For us, queuing is something we are forced to do. We do not do it out of the goodness of our hearts or kindness to a fellow human being; nor do we do it because it is the right thing to do, social-etiquette wise.
23/07/2015 8:05 AM IST
The luminous digital bedside clock says 01:00. I know, because I'm wide away nursing my right cheek bone with ice. That's going to be one heck of a bruise, I think to myself. Without making a sound, I turn around and glare at the culprit. He's sprawled on his back, his arms folded behind his head as if he's lying on beach chair in Hawaii. His legs are still twitching, probably an after-shock from the encounter from my now bruised cheek.
25/05/2015 8:14 AM IST
When I became a father, a few male friends asked me a question. A question, I must confess, I just hadn't thought about. That question was: "How does it feel?" The first time I was asked this question, I was rather perplexed. Was my friend referring to the timely procreative act that had successfully borne fruit? Or the nearly out-of-body experience of helping hand-deliver my little one?
06/05/2015 8:16 AM IST
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