Saumya Dave is a writer and physician in New York City. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Global Post, India Abroad, and British Medical Journal, among others. When she is not at the hospital, she is editing her novel on arranged marriages.
Thank the people who didn't believe in you. Yes, that includes the fifth grade teacher who told your parents you wouldn't amount to much, and the ex-boyfriend who said he was the only person who could love you.
I noticed a shift as I approached my early 20s. People began giving advice about jobs that were "better for women than men." Men could continue to cultivate ambition, independence, and empowerment, while women had to stifle these qualities if they interfered with domesticity. The same girls who were pushed to work hard in school were now being asked when they'd finally settle down and get married.