When I was watching <em>Chak De</em> a long time ago, I couldn't help but nod my head in the segment where Shah Rukh Khan talks about how we always seem to first belong to our states and then our country. This is inevitable perhaps since India is really like 30 countries in one. Yet, despite the diversity all around us we seem to deal in stereotypes rather than in really getting to know people from other states.
Rachna Parmar is an award-winning blogger, an enthusiastic cook, wife, fitness freak, Yoga enthusiast and mother to two naughty sons and a Labrador. She is also a freelance Content Writer and an entrepreneur. She counts reading, writing, cooking, fitness, Yoga and social causes among her passions. You can follow her on her <a href="http://rachnaparmar.com/" rel="nofollow">blog</a>, Twitter (@rachnaparmar) and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Rachnasblogs" rel="nofollow">Facebook</a>.
<em>It don't matter if you are black or white...</em> Thus went the famous song by MJ. Here in India, it is more like light brown or dark brown. And it matters. A lot. . If you're a darker shade of brown, you were probably the recipient of derogatory comments almost as soon as your mommy popped you out. If you are lighter skinned, you would have heard paeans in praise of your "beauty".
25/08/2015 8:21 AM IST
There used to be a time when I preferred staying in luxurious hotels or resorts while on vacation. The hotels did great and still do fine, but I wanted some more flexibility. Those rigid check-in and check-out times didn't always gel well with my travel plans. Also having young kids meant that I wanted something more homely with access to essentials like milk, fruit and medicines too.
09/08/2015 8:53 AM IST
Parenting is a befuddling, bittersweet journey. When you start out, you are the sole providers, care givers and opinion makers
29/07/2015 3:48 PM IST
Compared to the carefree times of my childhood, today's children are living under constant stress: the stress of carrying on their slender shoulders the aspirations and lofty ambitions of their parents; the expectations of their teachers; and the incredible load of curriculum.
19/07/2015 8:16 AM IST
Among the great features, I quite like the Like button. It would be nice to have it in real life and not respond just press it diplomatically.
30/06/2015 8:20 AM IST
And you know what, in keeping with our culture, I keep my infinite misery of dependence on the help hidden within the four walls of my home. Outside of that, I am fiercely independent and strong, but inside of it, I am her slave.
10/06/2015 8:20 AM IST
The other day, when the car was at a traffic light, I noticed a young couple on a bike. They would have looked like any other young couple on a bike except that the girl had her arms full of red bangles. They both were dressed in jeans and tees. Normally, we don't mix Western attire with Indian traditional accessories like glass bangles, especially with the fear of being labelled <em>behenjis</em>. The only time you see women do so is when they are newly married.
30/05/2015 8:40 AM IST
You are making money, lots of it. When you exchange notes with your batchmates, you have lofty titles to display against your name. You also have the expression on your face that says, "I am important! I am always busy." You have arrived. You run and run, until one fine day you are just too exhausted to even get up. You feel an emptiness, a longing, a burnout, a bone-deep fatigue and a desire to break free.
08/05/2015 4:09 AM IST
While we need to applaud everyone who wishes to get more healthy and fit, sadly that is not what most people are doing. They are chasing the "right" weight (whatever that is) at any cost. So, crazy diets, starvation, excessive exercising and surgeries all go in the name of getting thin. It is frightening. The harm done to bones and bodies in the bargain are often not known or really worried about.
04/05/2015 8:07 AM IST
I think of myself as a compassionate person. But when I see another person hit out and bully someone I love, it is hard for me to feel empathy for them. In this blog I'd like to talk about how my younger son (now 8), who has faced a lot of bullying for different reasons, handled a recent challenge and taught me something really valuable.
23/04/2015 8:13 AM IST
Yes, my personal blog is public. You get to read what I write for free. But I put in a lot of effort and emotions, not to mention time and energy in my posts. I still continue to write for causes that strike a chord, for free. But I will not do it for you just because you say some flattering words to me.
06/04/2015 8:13 AM IST
It is tough enough sharing the grief or talking about death with adults. It is even harder talking about death with children. We avoid venturing there in order to shield them from the harsh realities of life. There is nothing wrong with that. Yet, it is also true that even very young children are aware of the concept of death.
20/03/2015 8:11 AM IST
I have a rule in my home. I don't let my children beat anyone, and I don't tolerate it when someone raises a hand on my kids. Otherwise, I never interfere in their daily tiffs with other children. I know that parents turn a blind eye to their children cussing and ill-treating other kids.<strong><em> I don't</em>.</strong>
17/03/2015 8:11 AM IST
There are some relationship "tips" that have become part of our culture's accepted wisdom. I have read them so many times in so many places that they are coming out of my ears. Even celebrities echo them when asked inane questions about their partners and marriages. Well, inane questions deserve inane answers, don't you think? Here are 6 such pearls of wisdom. Implement them at your own peril.
27/02/2015 8:15 AM IST
I am beginning to recognise some of the pitfalls of social media myself. While I have found people and groups that I can really connect with, those who are kind and generous, sometimes it is these very people who can jolt me with their pettiness or lack of compassion. I wonder what brings out this inner narcissist in us that will do just about anything for a few likes, comments and shares.
21/02/2015 8:21 AM IST
Growing up in 1980s India, we watched almost all the new releases on the big screen. We had no satellite TV or multiple movie channels back then. Our parents took us along for all the latest potboilers regardless of whether they were appropriate for our age or not. Apart from seeing everything in bright colours and giant proportions, what elated us about the big screen movie experience were the little things.
06/02/2015 8:23 AM IST
I don't know what was troubling her. I got up, went, and sat next to her. She seemed to be in her late 20s. I did not say anything. I did not want to intrude. I just offered her a tissue, which she graciously accepted.
03/01/2015 8:07 AM IST
When I became a parent, I vowed to myself to protect the little one, teach him my wisdom, give him the best values and make him a child the world would be proud of. Never once did I imagine in my parenting journey that both my kids would end up teaching me so much.
17/12/2014 8:19 AM IST
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