The Kama Sutra has ten types of kissing techniques, 64 different caresses, eight variations on oral sex and 84 positions for intercourse. And yet, despite all the love and our best intentions, relationship sex can begin to get predictable and just a wee bit monotonous. Wondering how to bring excitement back to bed? Here are 8 power moves to spice up your sex life.
Now don't be crass. The Screw is a "3D" oral sex technique that psychoanalyst Paul Joannides swears by in his award-winning book, Guide To Getting It On. What you do is that while giving him a blowjob, instead of following an up-down rhythm, you turn your head a little from side to side and let your tongue caress his shaft like a corkscrew.
The Screw is a "3D" oral sex technique that psychoanalyst Paul Joannides swears by in his award-winning book, Guide To Getting It On.
You swirl your tongue at the head and repeat the corkscrew pattern both upward and downward. Dr Joannides promises that the 3D stimulation from the up, down and sideways motion will drive him wild with pleasure.
Swivel and grind
This is the female equivalent of The Screw. The idea is to maximise her pleasure by grinding against her in circular movements after intercourse, instead of hammering in with powerful thrusts. This will help you hit not just the head of her clitoris but all the hidden parts, possibly even that elusive g-spot and the pressure to her pleasure points, as you rotate your hips inside her, will make her head spin with pleasure.
If handjobs and blowjobs are the only two weapons in your oral sex arsenal, allow us to introduce you to the magic potential of your thumbs. Place your forefinger and thumb on either side of his frenulum (the ultra sensitive tissue just where the head of the penis ends) and gently stroke him. Use the other hand to fondle his balls.
The play before foreplay
It's no secret that women take longer than men to get aroused, but a common mistake men make is to dive right in, in an attempt to get her sopping wet. Spend time building up the oral sex before using your tongue. Pay attention to other parts of her body first.
Plant kisses on her thigh or lightly finger her while kissing her breasts.
Plant kisses on her thigh or lightly finger her while kissing her breasts. Increase the intensity slowly, so that the tension in her body builds instead of all of the foreplay feeling like a hurried and confused exercise. Use your tongue only once she's already wet and writhing in anticipation
Use your body
Make oral sex even more pleasurable by switching up your the positions you most often seem to settle into without thinking. While 69 seems to be everyone's favourite answer to this question, we also recommend lying sideways so he has better access to the butt and lower back, the very bold move of straddling his face and, for the days when you're just too lazy, roughing things up a little by thrusting hard and grinding against his face as he gives you head.
Ew, we're not promoting bestiality! CAT stands for Coital Alignment Technique, a highly pleasurable variation to the missionary position. So much so, that according to a study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, women who weren't able to orgasm in the missionary position were 56 percent more likely to climax with the help of CAT.
CAT stands for Coital Alignment Technique, a highly pleasurable variation to the missionary position.
In this, the man lies on top in the missionary position, but a little higher than usual—say chest to shoulder, instead of chest to chest. He then slides upward and downward, increasing the contact between the clitoris and the head of his shaft. While this position allows for lesser penetration, the heightened clitoral stimulation will almost guarantee a shattering orgasm for her.
Since clitoral stimulation is the golden phrase in a woman's sex dictionary, here's something you can try during intercourse: insert your thumb as well as your penis and stroke her slowly, increasing the pressure as you go downward toward the anus. It will make the vagina feel fuller as well as feel like a new sensation for the penis. Do we hear simultaneous orgasms? Yes, we do!
The cat got your tongue?
Mentally checking out is a trap, and many long-time couples inadvertently end up doing it. Since you mostly know what your sex routine is going to be, you settle into bed and the frantic moans dwindle to little starts and gasps. Nothing puts out the flame of ardour faster than a partner who isn't a 100 percent present. Scream, wriggle, groan, moan and talk dirty. When you respond enthusiastically, it makes your partner feel sexier and adventurous.