A couple of months ago, a GQ article noted that 'white privilege' is prevalent on Indian Tinder. Apparently, most Indian women prefer to right-swipe white men while giving their Indian counterparts the cold shoulder on the popular dating app.
An Indian man decided to go on Quora to ask the existential question that has baffled philosophers through centuries.
"Why do Americans girls disconnect the chat immediately if I tell them that I'm an Indian? What is their perception about Indian guys?," he asked.
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An American woman who "passionately loves traveling in India", but does not fancy Indian men had a brutally honest response.
"If any of you care to look at my social media pages you'll notice it's primarily Indian guys. All ages. All states. All religions. All educations. All jobs. I have very solid experience in how you behave when an American woman replies via social media (for the record, I know a lot of Indian guys in person, so rest assured I also know all the variables of your IRL personalities)
Let me give a sincere thank you to all the Indian men who have protected me, defended me and literally kicked the ass of guys harassing me. (I don't condone this, but sometimes it's all they understand)
Unlike western guys, Indian guys immediately ask very personal questions. I won't use actual screen shots to protect the (not so) innocent. But here are some classic questions and comments from Indian guys;
What are you wearing?
Is your husband home?
Do you get along well with your husband?
Are you laying in bed?
When did you lose your virginity?
These are innocent enough questions. But, to most women if the guy is Indian, she stops there. Why? Because if she answers those questions, the next series goes like this;
Do you enjoy the sex?
Can I see a photo of your face with your hair loose?
I have one doubt... is masturbation bad for health?
Can I see one photo of you in jeans?
Rarely will an American woman not block you at this point. It's very offensive to us to be asked these questions.
If we are still allowing messages, next comes;
Can I see your breast? Side view and front view. Cleavage is fine for first photo. (Keep in mind, no need to have responded to previous sexual type questions. You can change the subject with each reply and they still do this!)
I've never seen a clean (what quoras policy here? Do we say slang or medical term?) ? American girls are clean and I want to see.
It gets worse from there. Why do I put up with this offensive behavior? Because you are better than this. All of you. So am I. So is every American woman who you think is worthless enough to engage in casual sex with you. You'll never realize your error if no one is willing to patiently teach you. I have blocked some, but 99.9% eventually get it. Overtime I see their English improve, their mind open and their intelligence about culture expand. It's worth the effort. I see men who start to see me, a woman (white!) as a friend and a confidant. Not some bimbo to do wrong things with. That's worth it!
I have been told, "why can't you do the sex? You're white. White women can have abortions." Do I even need to explain how wrong this is? I once asked a guy who was continually asking me to "say (bad word for female generals) to me" why Indian women aren't asked the same questions. I was told "because they are like pillar. Goddess. Most respect to them." As if somehow I'm lesser. Wow. It takes every ounce of love I can muster up to help these naive guys realize the errors in their thinking. Yes, I called them naive. They are clueless about women and western culture.
Guys, they block you because your countrymen have made it known that they think a white girl in jeans and a tshirt will have "the sex" with anyone. They think you're a racist pig. Yes, they judge you and it isn't fair, is it? It sucks to be judged by a few cultural impressions of the worst behaved. It sucks to be on our end, the end that is treated like a worthless person, too.
I've heard, seen, and read things that would make Sunny Leone blush with embarrassment.
Guys, my girlfriends tell me to make sure my Indian friends can't see them. As recently as last Saturday a friend told me Indian guys that know me keep trying to send her wrong messages.
Please stop. You're better than this."
Yes, we agree. Dear Indian men, please, please stop.
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