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We Won’t Wear Black: Women In Gir Stand Up For The Rights Of Widows

Women of self-help groups in Gujarat’s Gir region are winning the battle against regressive social customs.

26/09/2017 8:39 AM IST | Updated 26/09/2017 1:42 PM IST
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By Palak Gosai*, Gir Somnath, Gujarat

"It was time to break the silence. We announced that widows would not wear black to please the regressive society we live in," 39-year-old Motiben said in a resolute voice. Motiben's voice echoed the sentiments of many women representing the Sorath Mahila Vikas Mandali, an umbrella organisation connecting nearly 500 self-help groups (SHGs).

Started as a micro-credit platform like all SHGs, the Sorath Mahila Vikas Mandali (SMVM) has created varied income-generating avenues for women of rural Gujarat. But with a plea for help from a young widow, the group transformed into a platform to get rid of meaningless stigmas and ensure social equity and justice to widowed women.

Doesn't a widow deserve to live like you and me? Happily? It's time that women are given their basic rights as human beings. Jayaben, 55, SMVM member

A group of women from Kodinar block in Gir Somnath district of Gujarat came together in 1999 to form a self-help group with the support of Ambuja Cement Foundation. The SHG was started with the objective of encouraging women to get into the habit of saving. The savings were pooled and used for internal lending among members and for clearing bank loans, if any.

As more women joined, the SHGs expanded to 7 taluks (administrative blocks) across the district. The activities of the SHGs increased gradually to include the Sorath Mahila consumer store, onion nursery, spices marketing unit, dairy cooperative and tailoring units, besides production units for soaps, detergents, petroleum jelly and pain balms. The women also brought awareness creation and follow-up coordination of government initiatives—such as weather insurance and the national pension scheme—under their SHGs' purview.

Fighting stigmas

Seeking new horizons beyond their regular activities, the SHG members decided to work on overcoming the hurdles faced by women in the region. The communities in Kodinar include Kharva, Kodi, Kumbhar, Karadiya Rajput, Dalit, Darbar and Ahir, among others. The women of the SMVM put aside the caste divide and united to focus on social equity and justice for women.

In the southern part of Gujarat where Gir Somnath district is situated, widows are treated as second-class citizens. They are expected to be in perpetual mourning. They are compelled to wear black clothing and are barred from participating in auspicious ceremonies. They are pushed into a hopeless situation due to social customs and beliefs.

The revolutionary change began when Rasilaben from Malgam village lost her husband in a bus accident when she was 24 years old. As an SHG member, she sought the mandali's help in alleviating the additional agony imposed by society. Women from the SMVM went to her home and presented her with a colourful sari, bangles, nose ring and bindi—all of which are strictly prohibited for a widow.

Women gift a widow colorful bangles, saree and bindi once the rituals for the deceased are over, as a first step against social stigmatization. (Photo by Coastal Salinity Prevention Cell)
Women gift a widow colorful bangles, saree and bindi once the rituals for the deceased are over, as a first step against social stigmatization. (Photo by Coastal Salinity Prevention Cell)

"Doesn't a widow deserve to live like you and me? Happily? It's time that women are given their basic rights as human beings. We cannot tolerate the injustice meted out to widows," 55-year-old Jayaben, a proud member of the mandali told VillageSquare.in.

Respect for widows

In 2011, the SMVM started the Widow Recognition Program, a unique social protection initiative.

The first joint decision by the women was that there would be no room for caste, community and denominations. They started creating awareness among villagers about giving widows due respect and equality in society. They motivated the family members of a widow to help her lead a normal life and not to impose social taboos.

To overcome this social evil was not an easy task as the community was reluctant to accept the women's progressive approach. The members faced hurdles in the form of allegations and accusations from the community. But the women were never tempted to quit the battle they had begun. They continued their efforts through rallies, community meetings, awareness camps and house visits.

It took four years to see some results of their efforts. The mandali has now helped more than 500 widows lead a normal life, with the acceptance and support of communities across 68 villages.

Social security

After ensuring social equality and justice for widows, the women of the group went a step further and formed the Sorath Mahila Suraksha Kavach Yojna to give them social security.

The mandali has now helped more than 500 widows lead a normal life, with the acceptance and support of communities across 68 villages.

Often, widowed women in rural areas face severe hardships due to lack of sources for regular income and find it difficult to sustain their families. The SMVM women brainstormed about this problem and decided to launch a scheme to ensure social security for widows. All the SHGs who are members of the Sorath Mahila Vikas Mandali contribute ₹1000 annually from their savings. With this money, a fund has been created to help widows who are in need of assistance. The SHGs contribute the amount during the mandali's annual general meeting.

Their efforts have resulted in a fund of ₹1,00,000 which the women strive to increase with further contribution from SHGs. SMVM has started helping needy widows and provided cheques worth ₹11, 000. The members believe that in future they will be able to provide economic assistance up to ₹51,000 to destitute widows.

Collective power of women

With more than 6000 women members in 484 SHGs and their savings — ranging from ₹300 to ₹5000 per month as per their capacity — crossing ₹10 million, the SMVM remains a strong platform.

The women have worked in identifying illegal liquor-brewing thekas, striving for social inclusion of marginalised sections of society, and forming social counselling committees to address grievances of members as well as non-members. Timely action and consistent efforts have resulted in bridging the caste divide and ensured women empowerment.

The Sorath Mahila Vikas Mandali has succeeded in giving women a united voice against social discrimination. Their journey is proof that the collective power of women can bring about progressive change and transform lives.

Palak Gosai is Documentation and Communication Officer at Coastal Salinity Prevention Cell, a non-profit organization based in Ahmedabad, Gujarat. Views are personal.

This article was first published on VillageSquare.in, a public-interest communications platform focused on rural India.

The opinions expressed in this post are the personal views of the author. They do not necessarily reflect the views of HuffPost India. Any omissions or errors are the author's and HuffPost India does not assume any liability or responsibility for them.

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