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And nor do I care to look younger than my years.
Maya at Three by Rita Banerji
While I feel the need to break the stereotype and do my job in office well, it is blasphemous for me to skip the household chores or neglect family--or at least I feel so. While I need to be an equal to men at work, I cannot be an equal at home and sit with my feet up when I reach home tired.
"Maya", as a concept in Hinduism and Buddhism, means attachment to the tangible aspects of life and relationships. It is a sentiment which the scriptures sternly warn you off of, as they say it is spiritually unhealthy. They say this is all transient -- an illusion. That it is not the truth. And yet, as my friend chose the name "Maya" for her adoptive daughter, I was struck by the intense attachment she felt for the child.
Section 375 of the Indian Penal Code, 1860 (amended) states that a man is said to have committed rape, if he does any of the intrusive sexual acts as enlisted in Section 375, with a girl below 18 years of age, with or without her consent. However, Exception 2 of the same Section provides that sexual intercourse by a man with his own wife, the wife not being under fifteen years of age, is not rape!
This experiment officially began in earnest on the day my five-year-old insisted on painting my toe nails in two colours. I wasn't convinced, but she pointed to her own colourful toes. "Mama, don't my feet look cute?" How could I say no? I embraced her and from there started my journey of being groomed by my child. Not only did this give me so much pleasure at a personal and maternal level, it also made me realise how much unnecessary emphasis we women give to body image and appearances.