The usual game of bribery, via punishment and reward, is unnecessary and counterproductive. Kids are already motivated by life itself, motivated to live their own lives, but not necessarily to live the lives that adults want them to live! Naturally they rebel and parenting turns into a war zone. Of course, they will need our help in distinguishing between a dangerous hot plate and a harmless cold plate. But rather than seeing the issue as only of them learning from us, caregivers are realizing that this learning process is a two-way street.