How your mother conducted her life and what she said to you matters. What she did not say to you matters even more. What she taught you, what she expected of you and how much she supported your choices and decisions (especially during the vulnerable moments) all play into how you approach your career.
Your mom's belief system and what she expected from you become a part of your psyche too.
How the important men in your life look at you, talk to you, think about you, expect from you, value you, help you, support you matters! How they do not look at you, talk to you, think about you, expect from you and help you matters even more.
The way the men in your life treat you and all the women in their life affect your choices.
Your individual personality, thoughts, goals, dreams, aspirations, priorities, preferences and what you are willing to do despite all odds will determine the quality and quantity of your career.
Your DNA, experiences, priorities and choices influence your decisions.
The value you associate with money based on your upbringing, and what money could not buy you or get you in the formative years of life is key. Most importantly, whether you're working to put food on the table or not determines how you navigate your career trajectory.
The value you associate with money and the need to work changes how you make choices.
Your expectations of yourself, your spouse, your marriage is important. But more important is your clarity on where you career comes in your list of priorities once marriage changes the complete equation.
When, why and who you get married to can transform your career and life.
What she taught her son about the differences between a man and a woman matters. What she did not teach him about the similarities between a man and a woman matters as much. How much he heard and understood matters even more.
How she raised her son (your husband) and what she expects from you will influence your everyday lifestyle.
How you feel when you see your baby for the first time, when you hold him/her in your arms and what you are willing to let go of from your former life and what you need to hold on to will determine all your career choices and preferences for the next 10 to 20 years of your life.
How you feel for your kids and what you believe is non-negotiable as a mother will determine everything you do.
What kind of paid support system you have at home is one of the most important deciding variables in the choices you can make in your career and life. Also, your ability to pay for such services will determine what you can afford and for how long.
How regular and reliable they are will determine how you think - what you can do and what you cannot.
When, where and how you make a shift (in terms of transfer to a new place) and adapt to the terms of employment there will determine what you can do in terms of work and beyond.
Physical relocation to a new place will play a role in terms of the opportunities available to you.
10. Medical issues
How good your health is and how well your loved ones are will influence the career opportunities you can choose, what organisations you can work for, how long your career lasts and how much growth you can expect.
Your health and the health of loved ones will determine the focus and time you can invest in your career and yourself.
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