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There are some clear-cut differences.
You’ve been judged too, so you know what it feels like.
Isn't this a case of much ado about nothing? To me, it is. Point out a time to me in the history of humanity when women weren't working. Incidentally, this takes me to a very interesting case where my...
I stand guilty. I stand guilty before my 18-month-old daughter. I am guilty of not giving her enough time, guilty of not playing with her, guilty of not being able to see her grow. I took a long break...
A fellow stay-at-home mama recently said she was felt envious when she heard my "boardroom talk" and had wistful "visions of tailored clothes, shiny shoes and coffee machines." I love my shoes (I am a...
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Meet Neha. According to me and a lot of people I know, she is the perfect person. She's smart, funny and beautiful, both inside and out. Neha is a successful lawyer. She decided to put her career on h...
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After having followed the classic given-up-work-then-returned-to-it trajectory, what I've learned is that there's no magic formula. There are many, many factors that determine a woman's career arc. Sheryl Sandberg believes it is the man you marry. I believe it's your mother's ability to live near you. Either way, a woman must prepare for the fork in the road long before she reaches it.
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You've always been mean to me, Mom. I vividly remember that day when I played so hard in the hot sun. I think I was about 7 years old. With love filled in my heart, I came running home to hug you, thinking you would serve me food. Instead, you snapped at me and told me to serve myself. I was so hurt, Mom.
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I didn't realize the power of financial independence until the day I stopped working and stopped earning. As long as my husband could support my and my family's needs, was it still important that I contribute to our monthly income too? Was it not contribution enough that I was tending to our family and taking care of all their non-financial needs? For lots of reasons, I started realizing that the answer to that question, for me, was no.
What if we don't get trapped in hollow buzzwords like "me time" that offer respite similar to Leisure Hour for prisoners? Instead let all hours be ours, so that we get to decide how we loan them out to others -- to our family, friends, co-workers. What if we stopped the running roster of things-others-need-to-do alongside our own list of things-to-do and what if we learned to keep the lists separate?
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I am not saying that things are not better than before, or that women don't have options. They are and they do, but we're still a long, long way from a culture where a woman is taken more for her ability than her assumed availability.
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Recently I happened to speak to a friend who was all set to embrace motherhood in all its glory. But the more we discussed parenting and how life changes after kids, the more it became evident that there was something she wasn't telling me. So, I dug a little more and coaxed her to reveal the source of her worry.
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I am not questioning a woman's career choices here. Not everyone can take time off from her job to bring up her child - every family has a different financial obligation. Nor am I implying that employing an ayah is a cardinal sin. It's the parental avoidance in child-rearing that baffles me. If from bathing to feeding to napping all the harder tasks have been outsourced - what's left of parenting?
A lot of women in positions of relative power have highlighted multiple perspectives on being a working mother. I've also written a lot of this subject, but I believe there is more to be said on the day-to-day trials, tribulations and turmoil of a working mom.