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Neha Simlai

Full-time Environment Sustainability Professional. Part-time Writer.

Neha Simlai is an MPA Candidate for 2016 -2017 at the Lee Kuan Yew School of Public Policy, National University of Singapore. Until recently, Neha was working as full-time consultant on environmental sustainability and other development themes in India. She has specialised in mainstreaming ESG risk in the Finance and Retail sectors with a view on specific commodity supply chains. Neha has recently put an end to a contested divorce petition. She writes often, but not regularly and is also working on her own book.

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An Apology: Divorce Is Not Predictable And There Isn't A Definite Cycle

A complete stranger recently messaged me on Facebook to say that a post from my series, 'The Predictable Cycle Of Divorce', had helped her somewhat, as she was thinking through her divorce. But her situation is completely different. There is a four-year-old involved and that changes a lot of things. A friend reached out in person to say that I was getting a bit repetitive in setting the context and that most people who were going through a divorce end up dealing with it in whatever way they know best.
13/07/2015 8:26 AM IST
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The Predictable Cycle Of Divorce: Knowing When Enough Is Enough

Things that are the most irksome and troubling during the process of separation and divorce are often based around what other people are speculating or saying about you. To counter that feeling of being spoken about or being judged, we often put ourselves through more than we should -- more emotional drama, more victimisation, more martyrdom, more conflict, more pain, more pressure and sometimes even more violence.
09/04/2015 8:09 AM IST
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The Predictable Cycle Of Divorce: Figuring Out The Lawyer

On most occasions, you think that lawyers are telling you stuff you already know. Sometimes they will say things you don't want to hear. Sometimes they will use legalese meant only to confuse you. They will also frustrate you with their lack of interest, wastage of paper, inability to stick to time, et al.
21/01/2015 8:21 AM IST
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The Predictable Cycle Of Divorce: Figuring Out The Lawyer

On most occasions, you think that lawyers are telling you stuff you already know. Sometimes they will say things you don't want to hear. Sometimes they will use legalese meant only to confuse you. They will also frustrate you with their lack of interest, wastage of paper, inability to stick to time, et al.
21/01/2015 8:21 AM IST
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The Predictable Cycle Of Divorce

Strangely, enough, I continue to believe in relationships and emotional dependency. Honestly, I only hate divorce because the last casualty of the process of divorce is the person you were in that marriage--the one that believes in forevermore and happily ever after.
11/01/2015 8:29 AM IST