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Food memories are travellers. Mine travelled with me to Canada and stayed in my kitchen here. A link with my past. They gave me a sense of comfort. Yet, sometimes food stories also remind us that historically and culturally, access to and consumption of food are sagas of shame and deprivation.
Our memories of food tend to revolve around two distinct themes: one, of home-cooked delicacies, and, two, of mom smilingly slaving over a hot stove. These memories may seem heart-warming, but in my mind they've ruined things for thousands of Gen X women in the Indian diaspora who are trying to carve out a life of economic empowerment and equal partnership at home. The Bharatiya Nari image is so ingrained that we are neither able to follow Sheryl Sandberg's exhortations to "lean in" nor Rosa Brooks's call to "recline".