Co-founder of My Big Red Bag. Eats too many carbs, reads too many books
Gauri is the co-founder of www.mybigredbag.com, a netzine that examines current news and popular culture from the (atypical) perspective of women. She writes about her favourite books, Bollywood, feminism and television.She loves strong cappuccinos and post-apocalyptic science fiction
We want our children to work in Infosys and IBM, and think of a career spent working in Delhi University or Delhi Public School as a failure of sorts. At the same time, in a startling display of double standards, we bemoan the quality of education our children are getting in said universities and schools.
Among all of Hindi cinema strikes against gender balance, the way they treat their sisters is perhaps the worst. In a male-centric industry, sisters exist only to provide a reason for the brother's demeanour, and little more. But occasionally, there is a sisterly relationship that is fully realized - a sister who is a real person with an inner life and a believable arc. Here's to some of Hindi Cinema's most memorable behnas and their steel wills.
We want our stories to have a simple narrative - relationships easily resolved, and feelings that are either best described as abiding love or bitter enmity. But in the case of the Mangeshkar sisters, the truth is probably a little more complicated. They've squabbled, been bitter rivals, supported each other and been each other's best friend through an entire six decades lived in the limelight. And that's what makes their sisterhood so unique.
It is fitting that the video talks about choice, because that, unfortunately, is one thing that women (even the most powerful of Bollywood icons) don't always have. They spend entire careers playing second fiddle and sex objects to much older male actors for a chance to be their own person. Then, just as soon as they turn 30, they are discarded for the next generation of women with little power.
As a quick reminder, to meet the Bechdel Test, a movie (1) has to have at least two women in it (2) who talk to each other about (3) something besides a man. Unfortunately, only one out of the 10 biggest movies of the year passed.