Fardeen is diminutive, looking younger than his 14 years. He stares a lot at his hands which are scarred from the work he did as a child labourer. He was brought at the age of 11 to Delhi by a hotel owner, with promises of a good salary and a better life in the city. However, the reality was different. Fardeen was sold for Rs 6000 to sew at a denim factory.
While talking with such family members may be good for reclaiming your voice, if you are not ready and have not created a strong support group for yourself, it may even derail your healing journey. Speaking to them <em>before</em> you have done the ground work may result in you focussing on your abuser or your family members, rather than work on your healing. You will need to be patient and build a solid foundation before taking this difficult course of action.
Deciding to tell can be self-affirming. Never doubt your right to speak your truth. When you are able to open up and the person listening to you acknowledges what you have been through, this can be a powerful experience. The following three things are what you will need to do to ensure as positive an experience as possible.
Child sexual abuse can affect every aspect of your life but it may be difficult to say exactly how it may have damaged you: perhaps it caused your lack of self-confidence, your issues with trust and boundaries, challenges when it comes to intimate relationships, your sexuality and/or your difficulties with parenting.
With the proliferation of new technologies and social media apps, it seems these days as if our children are almost constantly online, and as parents/guardians we sometimes have a tough time keeping pace. How can we ensure that we are as good parenting online, as we are offline? Use these five tips to educate, empower and protect yourself, as well as your children, to have safer and more meaningful online experiences.
Shame is a difficult emotion to deal with any time, but nowhere is it more debilitating than in the context of child sexual abuse. So, how can you help as a parent? Here are three things you can do to help your child to recover from the cycle of self-blame and shame.
Each encounter with Kailash Satyarthi leaves an indelible mark on me -- his quiet persona is calming, his smile infectious. He is a serious man but he speaks light-heartedly. It is impossible not to be won over by his slow, deliberate manner of speaking. So I was surprised when he chose to speak about anger at the TED conference last month in Vancouver.
Children, depending on their age, may not be able to warn you of what is happening to them. They may lack the vocabulary and/or the understanding. So what are the three signs to watch out for if your child is suffering from sexual abuse?
You may have just been told by your partner that he or she was sexually abused in childhood. You may have been suspecting this for a while. The world, as you know it, is reeling, and worse, you may know, and even like, the perpetrator, if it was a family member Remember that you must see your partner's disclosure in a positive light: they are entrusting you with a very private part of their life. What should you do to honour that trust and help in the healing journey?