Are you just plain confused about the "new" developments in the sexual behaviour of your fellow countrymen and countrywomen? Do you get labelled a homophobe or a moron and get schooled about your spelling and grammar when you try to have a "healthy debate" about it on Facebook? If you answered “yes” to the first two questions, then you are in the right place! I have all the answers. I am that Social Justice Warrior you didn't know you wanted.
So here's what's happening: six Latin American nations -- Argentina, Brazil, Chile, Colombia, Mexico and Uruguay -- together have proposed the creation of the post of a UN Independent Expert, whose job it will be to address human rights violations on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity. This expert will answer to United Nations Human Rights Council (UNHRC), which consists of 47 countries, including India.
For the conservatives, it was a confusing situation. Someone from a religion they hate killed a group of people they hate. Now they can't show sympathy towards the killer because he's a Muslim. They can't show sympathy towards the victims because they were LGBTQ+. So they ignored the LGBTQ+ side of the victims. For the liberals too, it was confusing and difficult. They can't blame the Muslims because it'll lead to more Islamophobia... So they blamed the guns and homophobia, ignoring the fact that a religious ideology is also responsible.
The moment I became financially independent, I started spending. Little did I know I had no training on how to spend. I think kids should be taught how to manage their finances in school! That should be the most important subject, not the Pythagorean theorem. It's like, "Hey kids, don't worry about your credit card bills as long as you know all about the complicated relationship between the sides of a triangle." I mean, what the actual f*ck!
<em>"Fardeen Khan gives a fitting response to the trolls who fat-shamed him"..."Amy Schumer has the perfect comeback for the jerk who fat-shamed her"...</em> These are the types of headlines we see every single day. If you happen to read the comments on these posts, you will see that they are, predictably, heavily divided. On the one side, we have the "you do you!" supporters and on the other side, we have the extremely concerned "fat is bad" folks.
We might be privileged in a lot of ways but not when it comes to our financial situations. Compare us to the actual poor layer of society and yes, we are "entitled and spoiled." But compare us to our counterparts in developed countries who don't work half as much as we do or are half as qualified as we are, but are paid a fortune, then no, we are not "entitled and spoiled", we are helpless.
There will always be that one co-worker, that one friend or that one neighbour who just doesn't get it! They have no idea what they are missing out on. And all you want to do is to tie them up in a chair, use one of those things that optometrists use to keep the eyes open and make them binge-watch it.
One day in 2012, after graduating college, I watched and read Stephen Chbosky's <em>The Perks of Being a Wallflower</em>. I've never related to a character like Charlie before. He was an introvert, he found it difficult to belong, to "participate". He was sexually abused, suicidal and good looking. After the initial "so relatable!" freak out and heartbreak, I realized how <em>comforting</em> the story was.
I decided to do a survey on 51 of my friends, well friends <em>and </em>friends of friends (like I'd have 51 friends! Introvert. Hello?) about where they stand on the whole religion thing. The questions ranged from 'Are you religious?' to 'How religious are your parents?' to 'Will you raise your children to be religious?' and ended with their stance on the concept of god. The participants are all from India (except for one person, more on that later), from Hindu, Christian and Muslim families.
When your bank asked to bump up the credit limit, like a horny teenager, you bent over and said YASSS! How are you going to pay that off now? Are you going to ask your mommy for money? Is your daddy going to come and rescue you? Nah ah! You, pumpkin, are an ADULT. Adults don't go crying to mommy and daddy. They might occasionally take a few bucks from their sister, stay in her apartment without paying rent, and eat her food, but parents? NO WAY!
You open the first of many dating apps on your phone. Scroll and tap, tap and scroll. You scroll through the abs and the six packs and the family packs and the man boobs. You scroll through the liars, the fakes, the spammers, the desperate, the curious.
Indians and Americans have a lot in common. During every election, we are forced to either support a supposedly liberal, yet easily bought and manipulated political party or swear allegiance to the death eaters aka the right wing conservatives to worship their Voldemort.
Every time I have a heated debate with a self-proclaimed male chauvinist friend about feminism, equality and gender roles, I think to myself, why do I care? I could say it's because I am the son of a working woman, who raised me to believe what I have between my legs isn't gonna give me any special privileges at home or because I'm the brother of an ambitious woman who doesn't conform to typical gender roles. Or, maybe because I'm just that awesome! But am I?