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This Is The Story Behind The 'Abused' Child Video Virat Kohli Posted On Instagram

Her uncle is not pleased by the social media trial.

23/08/2017 3:06 PM IST | Updated 23/08/2017 3:15 PM IST
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A few days ago, a little girl became an unwilling Internet star when several famous cricketers shared a video of her crying and pleading with her mother to not get angry while teaching her numbers. Cricketers Virat Kohli, Yuvraj Singh, Shikhar Dhawan and Robin Uthappa had many sharp comments and advice for the (unseen) mother for abusing her child. Turns out, the 'abused' child is singer Toshi Sabri's three-year-old niece, Haya, and her uncle is not amused by this social media trial of his sister, reported Hindustan Times.

Between 18 and 19 August, the cricketers used their social media handles to share the video, berating the mother and exhorting parents to be patient and loving towards their children. The video has racked up over 5 million views on Instagram at the time of writing this article, with hundreds of angry comments outraging over the mother's 'cruelty'.

Is that how you going to bring up your child ? Absolutely disgraceful and disturbing behaviour by this parent 😡 you need to give your child love and compassion to get the best out of them ! Unacceptable 😤

A post shared by Yuvraj Singh (@yuvisofficial) on

#Repost @aesha.dhawan5 (@get_repost) ・・・ THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST DISTURBING VIDEOS I HAVE COME ACROSS!!!!! AS PARENTS WE HAVE BEEN GIVEN THE PRIVILEGE OF RAISING OUR CHILDREN!!! WE ARE HERE TO MAKE THEM STRONG INDIVIDUALS WHO CAN BECOME WHO THEY ARE MEANT TO BE. IT HAS DISGUSTED ME THAT THIS LADY IS ABUSING THIS CHILD EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY JUST SO SHE CAN COUNT TO 5!!!! THE CHARACTER OF ANY PERSON IS ALWAYS SHOWN WHEN THEY HAVE POWER OVER SOMEONE AND HOW THEY USE THIS POWER!!! LIFE IS FULL CIRCLE AND I PRAY THAT THIS BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRL GROWS UP TO BE A STRONG WOMAN ONE DAY!!! WHAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN THIS CHILD GROWS UP TO BE STRONG AND THIS LADY BECOMES OLD AND FRAIL AND IS AT THE MERCY OF THIS LITTLE GIRL!!! SHOULD SHE EXPECT A SLAP AND DOMINATION THEN????THIS LADY SHOULD BE ACCOUNTABLE AND DISGUSTED IN HERSELF TO DO THIS TO AN INNOCENT LITTLE GIRL!!! SHE IS A COWARD AND ONE OF THE WEAKEST PEOPLE ON EARTH THAT SHE IS SHOWING DOMINANCE OVER A CHILD!! LEARNING SHOULD BE FUN AND ENJOYABLE NOT FEARED AND HATED!!! EDUCATION IS VERY IMPORTANT BUT NOT AT THE COST OF A CHILD'S SOUL!!!!

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Toshi has now responded with sharp words of his own, saying that strangers who know nothing about the people in the video and their specific circumstances should not make snap judgements about a mother's parenting style by watching a 1.5 minute video.

Toshi also raised the point of how difficult it is to raise children and discipline them. He said that Haya was a stubborn, naughty child and sometimes, parents have to toughen themselves against tears and tantrums to make the kids study; but that did not mean they did not love the child. "One cannot question a mother's love by seeing a short video, if the others are feeling bad to see the child crying, as a mother, she must feel even more upset," HT quoted Toshi as saying.

The video, Toshi claims, was never meant for public consumption. It was made for a family Whatsapp group by Haya's mother. "(She) wanted to show her brother and husband that how stubborn the girl has become," he said.

While it is undoubtedly tough to see a child bawling in a video while being yelled at by a parent, Toshi does raise a valid point about leaping to judgements and indiscriminate sharing of photos/ videos without verifying the source or their 'truth' on social media.

Parenting is hard enough as is, and any parent, anywhere in the world, will vouch for the fact that it gets infinitely harder when every move is constantly being scrutinised by strangers. Knowing that every decision you make can shape your child's personality, thoughts and future is a big, terrifying responsibility anyway, the least we can do is not add to the ever-present guilt of parents by making villains out of them, armed with only half knowledge.

Just as we can't vindicate the mother for hitting her child on the merit of Toshi's words alone, perhaps it is unfair to vilify her due to Kohli's words either.

In the meanwhile, here's a happier video of Haya, from Sharib's (Toshi's brother) Instagram.

Independance day wish from my jaanam baby JAI HIND

A post shared by Sharib Sabri (@sharibsabri) on

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